It’s undeniable that 2015 was, yet again, Taylor Swift’s year. She’s got a hit album and I’ve counted multiple major songs being played back to back….back to back… and back to back again on the radio. You can’t escape T. Swift even if you try. I am going to preemptively explain to you all that I’m not a huge fan of hers, but I can at least say that, yes, she has some pretty catchy songs that I can even admit to singing along to them in the car. And good for her. She’s been able to stay relevant to her fans and listeners back since she was a country singer and not many teen artists can say that nowadays.
The topic of much discussion is not so much her music, but her love life and the amounting boyfriends she’s acquired over the years…and the few that have stuck around longer than just a few months. There’s a part of me that feels sorry for her simply because her youth is being played out for everyone to see and that’s never easy. I can’t say that I know the feeling of publicly navigating love and having to deal with the many criticizers out there watching and commenting on my every move. I mean, if we can be real for a moment, I don’t think any of us would fare well if our younger dating years were publicly documented on the front of magazine covers at the grocery store. However, the machine that is Taylor Swift has made millions of dollars by flipping the criticism and writing catchy tunes to counter those “haters [who] are gonna hate, hate, hate.”
After giving credit where it is due, I have to say that her take on love and how she is describing it to her fans is something that is a bit troubling for me to hear through her music. I think it’s great that she’s using personal experiences to inspire these songs (at least she writes her own music) but at some point someone has to stop and think about the message she’s sending. Let’s take a look at some of her most played songs from her 1989 album right now:
Then we are taken to a much darker place. Not so bright and carefree…
So it’s gonna be forever
Or it’s gonna go down in flames
You can tell me when it’s over
If the high worth the pain
Got a long list of ex-lovers
They’ll tell you I’m insane
But I’ve got a blank space, baby
And I’ll write your name
The message that I read from this song is that love is a great feeling but that it can cause some pretty debilitating pain when it doesn’t work out. Go figure. Been there. However, I don’t like the idea that love is projected as something that we must prepare for failure before anything has had the chance to grow. It’s perpetuating the idea that “this is going to suck when you leave me…but I’ll write your name on my blank space anyways.” I feel as though it is devaluing the person you are potentially going to be seeing by having that kind of attitude. And this idea of a blank space that can be filled is also troubling. Ones love and appreciation shouldn’t be something that’s just given away to anyone. And if you’re just going to write anyones name on the love you have, is this person really the one you should be giving it to?