Lately there’s been a lot of buzz, mostly criticism, about Meghan Trainor’s new music video for her song “Dear Future Husband.” If you’re not familiar, here it is and the lyrics can be found here.
Caught up? Ok…
Just like in my post about Taylor Swift, I am going to already come forward and say that I’m not a huge Meghan Trainor fan. Honestly, if I could never hear All About That Bass ever again, that day couldn’t come soon enough. It mostly comes down to modern radio overplaying artists moreso than me disliking the artist in general. But that’s an entirely different argument.
From what I’ve gathered since this song and music video has been released, the main criticism that she’s facing are from people with the ideas that she
has outdated, traditional views on relationships (via)
We currently live in a society where traditional gender roles, and to be frank when that term is used it’s mostly in reference to women’s roles, are beginning to break down and in a more public way. Yes, for women’s rights there’s still a lot to be done in the way of equality amongst our male counterparts across the board. And yes, this is a fair assessment.
However, as much as our modern society of women shame men for these gender roles, there’s a fair share of women shaming each other for their values in regards to their relationships, how to raise their families, and what kind of wife they need to be. All because of this concept of what our “new” roles should be.
I am a proud wife of a traditional marriage. In my marriage it is respected and understood by both my husband and I that he is the man and I am the woman and therefore there are certain expectations we have of each other. Now, I’m sure I’ve already begun to ruffle some feathers but stick with me on this…
The biggest difference between traditional in the common form of the term and my use of this term simply comes down to respect. My husband absolutely respects my role in our marriage and family and I his.
+ I worked hard to earn a masters in education and plan to have a fulfilling teaching career. However, family is extremely important to me and I won’t think twice about becoming a stay at home mother once we begin having kids. This is my choice. My husband would be completely respectful if I chose this path or decided to go right back to work. But it’s my choice.
+ I believe that my husband should be the provider of our family. He works extremely hard at his job and works hard for our family. In comparison to my teaching career he will always make more money than me and that’s just a simple fact. Teachers aren’t compensated for the level of work they do – it’s not a gender thing.
Maybe I’m not enough of a feminist but I don’t see how shaming women for living out both sides of the argument deserves shaming of any kind. As I understand it, Meghan Trainor wrote this song because it reflects her ideals for what she would like to have in her marriage. I’m of the mindset that if you disagree that’s okay and move on. There’s no reason to criticize her because she happens to be in the spotlight.
Do you have a traditional relationship? No? What’s your thoughts on Meghan Trainor’s video and song “Dear Future Husband.”