Dear Husband…

Dear husband,

Words cannot express the gratitude I have for you – as a man, a husband, and now a father.

In the five years we’ve been together you’ve taught me so many things about this life. You’ve taught me the power of growth – that it’s okay to transform yourself and evolve. You’ve taught me persistence with the things that matter the most and have shown me, both in your words and action, what unconditional love is and should be. You have patience with me, you support me in everything, but yet you’re open with me to talk about the things that may be uncomfortable or challenging. You allow me to be the person I am and yet you always take my hand and pull me in new directions and new experiences. For that I am grateful.

As a man you’ve simply redefined what it means. Often women think of men being physically strong, confident, as well as protectors and providers. You are surely all of those things, and then some, but you have a delicately strong sense of who you are. You are confident in what you believe in, but have an amazing ability to be open-minded. You have a wealth of knowledge about most things, but are always eager to learn something new. You are both physically and emotionally strong (often for the both of us), but yet you are capable of being vulnerable, honest, and open. You are both a best friend, and to many, a source of light. And you don’t take life too seriously – there’s always time to laugh with you. To be a man is a multitude of things and here you are living it out as an example not just for me, but for Greyson as well. For that I am grateful.

On a snowy day in Alexandria, just the two of us, and at our local courthouse we became husband and wife. If only we thought to take a picture! We’ve been married for three years and for three years I’ve lived in anticipation of what we’ll accomplish together. From our respective personal goals, to raising a family and our future travels, it’s a life I know we will look back on and can see we had life in our years, not the years in our lives together. Marrying you was one of the easiest choices I could make as there would be no other person I would want to do life with. You are the mate to my soul and will forever be my greatest love. For that I am grateful.

I am in awe of you as a father. This marks your second Father’s Day and although the Hallmark holiday probably doesn’t mean much on the surface, just know this day is especially important. Every day of the year you are constantly focused on my happiness or the happiness of our family. You are the first to willingly absorb anything and everything that could stand in the way of that happiness – an act of protection that would give most a sense of pause. However, today you need to know that your role as Greyson’s father is something that will go down as one of your greatest accomplishments. Something that fulfilled you in a way nothing else could. God couldn’t have given me anyone other than you as a partner in this life or have chosen you as Greyson’s ‘dada’, and for that I am particularly grateful.

You’re a Godly man, whether you realize it or not. He has placed in you very specific gifts and blessings to which you have always extended to me and to others. You have a heart for service and an amazing ability to connect with people – something that most of us find challenging. You have family, friends, and even colleagues who are impressed with your commitment whether it be personal or professional. You always aim to, ‘get the job done’ but without sacrificing who you are or your integrity. It’s been inspiring, watching you grow into the man you are today and the father I know you aspire to be for Greyson. Our son has no better example.

You are attentive, playful, knowledgable, and always seeking to give and do for Greyson regardless of how many work hours in the day. Because you’re the ‘stay at work dad’ you’ve given me an amazing opportunity to be home with him – to raise him. This was something that was extremely important to me as a mother and it was you who gave me that opportunity. For that I am forever grateful.

I could clearly go on forever – speaking your praises. You’re the quiet soldier of our family whose efforts seemingly go unnoticed. But just know I see and appreciate everything you do for this family. I lub you so much and wish you the happiest Father’s Day this year and every year until the end.

“Maybe you’ll fall in love with me all over again…”
“Hell,” I said, “I love you enough now. What do you want to do? Ruin me?”
“Yes. I want to ruin you.”
“Good,” I said. “That’s what I want too.”

Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms

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