Dear Nicole Arbour

Recently there has been a media storm surrounding a ‘comedian’ and ‘YouTube star’ (apparently that’s a thing now) named Nicole Arbour. To be honest, this may be the best thing that happened to her career considering I had never heard of this person before. But, if you’re not familiar, a few days ago she posted a video to her YouTube channel, which she described was meant as satirical comedy, entitled Dear Fat People. Her approximate six minute rant was consisted of declaring that ‘fat-shaming isn’t a thing” and that “fat people made that up.” Among her other hurtful comments, I mean jokes, she says “plus size stands for plus heart disease, plus knee problems, plus diabetes.”

 

What concerns me the most is this woman has absolutely no consideration for the group of people she’s hurting with her words and hides behind the guise of ‘comedy.’ If I have to be entirely honest, after hearing about this controversial video I was curious about who she was and after barely getting through one of her other videos I just don’t think she’s funny. At all. Perhaps that’s why she’s still on YouTube.

Regardless, she’s an individual who is making an attempt to shame a group of people she knows nothing about. #bodypositivity is more than just a social hashtag and butt of a comedienne’s attempt at a joke, it’s an acceptance of who you are regardless of what you look like; whether you’re a size 00 or 24, blonde or redhead, young or old. The biggest takeaway from this entire story is that people should always try to keep in mind that we never know another person’s struggle just by looking at them.

I love Whitney Thore’s response to Nicole Arbour’s video when she reminded us all:

“The next time you see a fat person, you don’t know whether that person has a medical condition that caused them to gain weight. You don’t know if their mother just died. You don’t know if they’re depressed or suicidal or if they just lost 100 pounds. You don’t know. Let me hammer this one home. You cant tell a person’s health, physical or otherwise, from looking at them.”

Fat-shaming is very much a thing and not something created by ‘fat people.’ Even pregnant women are body-shamed for the amount of weight gained during their pregnancy and even shamed for how quickly or slowly they lose it once the baby is born. By attacking a person’s weight what exactly is one looking to accomplish? That they would be somehow be motivated to lose weight in order to make your existence more comfortable? To live a life that you perceive as healthy? Right.

Shame is not a catalyst for change; it’s a paralytic.” -Leslie of xoJane

Is there an epidemic in this country as it relates to obesity, of course and I would have to be living under a rock to not notice or say otherwise. However, the real issue that needs to be continuously discussed here is not so much the problem of obesity. We’ve already declared it as a problem. Rather what are we doing as a country and individuals to solve it? Where does the problem stem from? How can reverse the damage that’s been caused by changes in food production, distribution, and availability? That discussion is much larger and more meaningful than Nicole Arbour’s career or hurtful words will ever be.

Instead lets spread this message. Because we’re beautiful no matter what packaging we come in.

 

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How One Product Saved My Beauty Routine

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I have been involved in a beauty love affair for over three years now…with bareMinerals makeup. I first discovered bareMinerals when I happened to stumbled into one of their boutiques at my local mall years ago. I was at first hesitant because I hate being forced into conversation with sales people and I didn’t want spend hours talking about makeup – something I didn’t put too much thought into, or invest in, at the time.

The mineral makeup trend

It was 2012 and I was curious about this newfound mineral makeup trend I had seen pop up everywhere. Up until then my makeup routine was, at best, a love/hate relationship. I had tried the liquid foundation but found it to not match my skin tone and was walking around with an obvious more tinted face than the rest of my pale body. I tried brands from both drug stores and larger retail stores such as MAC (whose makeup ladies scare me with the amount of makeup they wear), Sephora, and Ulta, which both would cause my skin to break out. However, I took a chance and decided to see what bareMinerals had to offer a girl like me, with no makeup skills or knowledge, and on that very day I had become a true believer.

Giving in to the makeup lady…

I decided to take a chance and let the kind sales lady do my makeup in the chair. I’m thankful I did because I finally learned how to apply and correctly use their makeup each step from foundation to eye shadow. Although there were a few more steps than I had anticipated, I was happy with the lightweight feeling of mineral makeup vs liquid. I was pleased that I had found something that matched, and complimented, my skin tone and was easy to use. Since then I only use, and highly recommend, bareMinerals to anyone who will listen.

Long story short, today I am so excited to share with you the newest bareMinerals addition to my makeup bag, which is their Complexion Rescue Tinted Hydrating Cream!

I first fell in love with BB cream a few years ago and again flirted with it when I received one in my Birchbox. I enjoyed it so much I decided to buy the full-sized bottle. Eventually I used it all and had yet to reorder any. Then on a trip to San Antonio I stopped into one of bareMinerals’ boutiques to pick up a new blush compact and to check out this new complexion cream that they were advertising. I spoke with the sales lady and once again I wound up in the chair and and before I knew it she was helping me pick out my shade and how to correctly apply it.

One fear of mine was this idea that in using this cream I wouldn’t be able to pair it with the mineral foundation I already have because of the fear of looking like I’m pancake-ing makeup on.

Wrong.

I have been using this cream in addition to my normal makeup routine and have found that it only compliments, if not more-so, my overall look without the affect of feeling and looking like I’m wearing too much makeup…especially in the Texas humidity.

What I love about BB and CC creams are:

+ they’re lightweight, so you don’t feel like you’re wearing anything additional
+ it takes the place of some makeup primers
+ you get an overall skin tone correcting affect
+ it’s smooth, non-oily, and perfect for all skin types
+ you only need a drop for your entire face!

Tips to ensure an effortless face every time:

One aspect to investing in your makeup that I cannot express enough is investing in the tools that are worthwhile and important to applying your makeup perfectly every single day. It’s like when you go to the salon and get a $100+ hair cut and style but not thinking about purchasing the styling tools or products to give you the same look once you go home and attempt it yourself.

What exactly are you investing in? The important factor here is that you are able to recreate what the stylist did, but for yourself. Same goes for makeup. Another consideration is making sure you clean your brushes so that it prolongs the life of your investments (and it’s just about being clean too).

I purchased the brush applicator along with my Complexion Rescue because this brush is designed for applying liquid and does a fabulous job at giving my skin that radiance I had been looking to achieve as well as the perfect overall coverage for the problem areas.

Before and after…

Fresh Faced: As you can tell in my before picture, you can see how I suffer from red spots, uneven skin tone, and I should mention that Texas humidity does nothing for your skin #spoileralert. I also tend to break out around my T-Zone and knew I wanted a light foundation that would easily hide these spots without making the problem worse.

Take a look at my results (click to enlarge)
Before and after photos when using bareMinerals’ new Complexion Rescue! Learn more about this product at www.theprimarilyinspired.com
 Just Complexion Rescue: The after photo is just the use of the Complexion Rescue. Isn’t it amazing that in just one step I was able to brighten and soften my complexion AND find a tint that perfectly matches my skin tone? Jackpot.

Full Makeup: The final photo is me with my finished overall look. I personally wear a more natural palette, which is great for the day-to-day. Being a mom, it’s not guaranteed I even wear makeup so having a quick makeup routine helps me look fresh faced even though I’ve had to reheat the same cup of coffee three times.

I promise that ALL of these photos are unedited or altered in any way (talk about courage, haha).

Want to get my natural look?

Like I mentioned before, I’m not a huge makeup person. I don’t have the time or the interest, but I do like a quick routine that makes me feel beautiful without the hassle. Plus, they have free shipping on a foundation purchases!

Here is what I pack in my makeup arsenal:

Mineral Veil | Foundation | Complexion Rescue | Bronzer | Eyeshadow | Blush | Mascara

Thanks for listening about my newest obsession and I hope that if you’re looking for a lightweight radiant look, consider visiting your local bareMinerals boutique and have one of the helpful ladies give you an application tutorial. It’s so worth the time and you learn so many tricks of the trade in the process.

Enjoy, beautiful ladies!

What makeup products are your go-tos? Are there any brands or products that you swear by?

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Birchbox Review: February


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One of the subscriptions that I use and find extremely convenient is Birchbox. For only $10 a month I receive 5 new samples of beauty products that I would have probably never tried on my own. The sad part is when I use up my samples!

My February box had a lot of fun goodies so let’s take a look…

1. Parlor Sea Salt Spray
This was a fun product to try because I have heard SO much about sea salt sprays being the latest trend for those beach waves. Now that my hair has grown out a bit, this product was fun to try. I love how ‘tousled looks’ are the best excuse for bed head 😉

Full-size: $24

2. Sumbody Salt Scrub
I love a good exfoliator and this salt scrub is the answer to my skin needs. It smells fresh and keep me feeling soft after each use.

Full-size: $13.50

3. theBalm ‘Read My Lips’ Lip Gloss
I’m more of a natural palate type of girl when it comes to makeup so I was a bit nervous about this lip gloss. However, it’s not as bright as you would think looking at it in the tube. It gives my lips a nice rosy tint and shine.

Full-size: $15

4. amika Nourishing Mask
I was introduced to the amika brand from a previous Birchbox (here) and its become one of my favorites. So, I was very excited to see yet another product in this month’s box. Because I process my hair constantly through dye, blowdrying, and sometimes flat ironing, it’s important that I take care of my hair. This nourishing mask is the perfect solution as it conditions and repairs. Another plus is that it smells really good!

Full-size: $28

5. BeeKind Shampoo
Shampoo is a touchy subject for me only because within the last few years I realized that not all shampoos are created equal. I have fine hair and, like I mentioned before, I process mine so finding a nourishing shampoo has been a bit difficult. I love that BeeKind’s shampoo is soft on my hair but also uses natural ingredients such as honey.

Full-size: $16


Birchbox Rewards:
Within this post I do use Birchbox referral links. I receive 50 Birchbox points for each referral, which goes towards purchases within their shop. Another way I earn points is by posting product reviews on their website. Sound pretty easy, right? It truly is…and you don’t even need a blog to do so.

If you’re looking for an easy, and affordable, beauty subscription service this is it. For $10 a month you receive 5 different samples each month to try and KEEP! No sending back what you don’t use and by taking a moment to post a review on birchbox.com, you too can earn points that can be used like cash in their shop. 

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Birchbox Review: December {Holiday Edition}

After reading some of the reviews of the Holiday Edition Birchbox for December from other bloggers I was eager to see what I received in my Birchbox. Luckily my box was filled with some fun products to try – a combination of hair care, perfume, skin care, and a mascara. Let’s take a look at what I got!

Davines Replumping Hair Filler Superactive | English Laundry Signature for Her Perfume 
Mirenesse iCurl Secret Weapon 24hr Mascara | SeaRX Microdermabrasion Face & Body Scrub
Davines Replumping Conditioner (Received on accident. See post)

This Davines Replumping Conditioner was sent to me on accident due to the fact that my insert card shows I should have received a Manna Kadar Lip Locked Lip Stain instead. I don’t mind so much given I love to try new hair care products more than makeup, however, I am always looking for that right makeup product that will push me outside my comfort zone – especially in the area of lip glosses and lipstick. Maybe next time.

With that being said, I am a new fan of Davines hair care products from previous Birchboxes. I still use their shampoo and conditioner and this conditioner doesn’t disappoint. I have color treated hair that also is styled with a blow drier and, on occasion, a hot iron. So, when it comes to conditioners I need whatever will put nutrients back into my hair to keep it healthy.

SeaRX Microdermabrasion Face & Body Scrub
I love the scent of this facial scrub and the Dead Sea minerals leave your skin feeling refreshed and exfoliated. Another plus is that it doesn’t leave your skin feeling dry or itchy like other major leading brands. I have natural skin and using this right after a workout gave me great results!

Birchbox Full-size: $28

English Laundry
Receiving new perfumes from Birchbox are always a favorite of mine. These little samples let me experiment with different fragrances, sometimes of which I would never try on my own doing. This English Laundry Signature for Her is light and “inspired by English gardens.” It’s notes are a wonderful balance between florals and earthy greens.

Birchbox Full-size: $70

Davines Replumping Hair Filler Superactive 
I was very eager to try this hair filler because I naturally have thin straight hair. Not that styling it has ever been an issue for me given my short bob haircut, but I was interested to see how it stacks up against my normal styling routine. This leave-in conditioner spray firms your hair and gives it some oomph without the use of mousse or other styling products, of which I’m a huge fan. I don’t like using a lot of product in my hair. Just spritz 5-10 sprays into towel-dried hair and style like normal. I found that the hair dryer activated its lovely scent and it actually thickens your hair! All you need is this replumping filler and a little spritz of hair spray and you’re good to go!

Birchbox Full-size: $39.50

Mirenesse 24hr Mascara
Another product I was excited to use from this months box was the iCurl 24hr mascara. I am always on the lookout for the perfect mascara that doesn’t leave my lashed weighted down or clumpy. I’m not into the hard and cracked spider look. I love the curved brush, which made for an easy application of both upper and lower lashes. However, I didn’t like that it doesn’t add volume to my lashes. Another downside for me was that the mascara clumped some of my lashes together and the 24hr hold didn’t allow for much wiggle room in the area of unclumping them. I did use a little of my Cover Girl mascara to add some volume which helped achieve the look I was going for. Overall it was okay but I don’t think I would invest in the full size version.

Birchbox Full-size: $29

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