Pregnancy is often a time that is, by the majority, discussed mainly amongst women. From symptoms, stretch marks, and what to expect during labor, these conversations tend to happen without a man in the room (or wanting to participate in the discussion – can’t blame them). However, it’s been my experience during our pregnancy that although my husband isn’t jumping at the opportunity to talk about the good, bad, and ugly parts all the time, he does have feelings about the changes heading our way and how baby Greyson will impact our lives from here on out. He has a mind full of expectations of himself, but also plans for how he wants to raise a young boy into a man (his inner-Texan is showing). Being a dad is an important role for any man and this is especially true for Philip, so I thought it would be fun to share his inner thinkings of becoming a first-time dad for this month’s series of An Interview With My Husband: Preparing For Baby.
This series first began a few months back (off and on) where my husband would take over the blog for a day in the form of a series of interviews I would have with him. I have always been intrigued with our conversations over the years and picking his brain, not knowing what he’d say next, was exciting and, many times, thought provoking. Since we have so many of these conversations I thought it would be fun to share some of them with you all here.
I encourage everyone to spark up conversation like these (to help get questions going feel free to look back at our interviews or just Pinterest search them!) with their significant others because you end up learning a lot about how they feel, what they’re thinking, and even things about your relationship you may not have uncovered otherwise. The topics of discussion are endless and not to mention, it’s always a good time, especially over wine 😉
Kelly: What most excites you about becoming a first-time dad?
Philip: I wish I knew. I’m overwhelmed, but in a good way. I’m unable to focus on any one thing because my heart is all over the place. I try to keep a cool head and think logically, but emotionally, I’m bursting.
K: What fears do you have about becoming a first-time dad?
P: I just hope that he is better than I am. As sad as it sounds (but it really isn’t), I’ve expressed that I’m disappointed with a lot of what I’ve done professionally. I had great aspirations, but the world beat me down and I lost a lot of years trying to recover. Don’t get me wrong, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been, but I hope that he doesn’t fall the way I did and lose all that precious time.
K: What were your favorite childhood memories? What makes those moments so memorable?
P: Really it was the little things I remember the most fondly. Saturday morning cartoons, camping with my family at Garner State Park, chasing the ice cream man down the street during the summer. It was the simplicity of it all. Growing up I remember feeling unsure a lot and I felt bullied a bit, but I remember that I was always happiest doing simple things by myself or those I was close with.
K: What are you most looking forward to once Greyson arrives?
P: Teaching him. I just hope that he will be willing to learn. I hope that I am patient – I’m really working on that. I’m ecstatic about having a baby, but (and I hate to say it) I’m really focused on raising a better man than I am.
K: How do you think Greyson will change you? Your outlook on life? Our relationship, etc?
P: He already has. My priorities have shifted dramatically and life already seems more dangerous than I thought previously although it’s just as beautiful. I know that he will strengthen our relationship overall, but will occasionally challenge it – my goal is to recognize when it’s happening so that I may respond in a way that let’s you know that you’re my everything.
Be sure to catch up with Philip and I for our next interview in March!
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