Bringing Up Bébé: The Art of Doing Their Nights

I can’t believe we are in week two of this book study! We’re reading all about the secrets to babies “doing their nights,” or otherwise known as sleeping through the night – even at just a few weeks old. I was completely fascinated with these two chapters as we learned more about how French mothers not only get their babies sleeping soundly each night, but a key to this feat is something known as le pause.

Join me in welcoming Iryna from We Are Moms as she discusses her thoughts on chapters three and four!

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New to this book study? Join us, and other bloggers, as we dive into learning the ways of French parenting through our reading of Pamela Druckerman’s hit book, Bringing Up Bébé. Find more information and how you can join in the discussion by visiting the book study page!


As a mom of a 2.8 year child who doesn’t sleep through the night, the chapter about baby’s sleep was particularly compelling to me.

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When I first read that French kids start “doing their nights” from as early as 6 weeks old, I was stunned. How is it even possible? The talk is not only about some random child who started his all night sleep at a very young age. Pamela Druckerman, the author of Bringing Up Bébé, describes it as a very common experience among French babies.

It is quite fascinating how the author’s method of getting her daughter to sleep resembles my own methods. Since my daughter rarely fell asleep during nursing, I had to rock her in my arms until she would doze off. Then followed the ritual of keeping her in my arms for 15 minutes or so (because according to a theory, these first minutes of sleep are light sleep and you don’t want to wake up a baby before putting her in a crib).

As you can imagine, the routine was far from teaching a child an independent sleep and even further from “doing the nights.”

That’s why when I read the first sentences of kids starting to sleep through the night at 6 weeks old, I craved immediate answers. I needed to know, what are these French parents doing differently and whether I can change my parenting technique to achieve that long awaited night’s rest.

There is one thing, that worths to be mentioned about France. The country is often criticised about its approach to breastfeeding and its very low rates in comparison to other European countries. Many people believe that bottle fed babies begin to sleep better at a much younger age than breast fed babies. So, at first I thought that bottle feeding is the reason behind a good sleep.

But as I continued reading the chapter, the author pointed out that type of feeding doesn’t make a crucial difference in a baby’s sleep pattern. Bottle feeding is not the reason why French babies sleep well. 

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As the author attempts to dig deeper into the sleep secrets, she discovers one small detail, that finally sheds a light on why French babies sleep. And the secret is in a “pause.”

Instead of rushing to a crying baby after every single peep, first, try to carefully listen and observe. Did he really wake up or maybe he’s making noises in his sleep? Does it seem like the baby’s hungry or having a dirty diaper? You just need a couple of minutes to get things clarified before responding.

At this point, it’s important to distinguish between waiting a few minutes before attending to a baby versus letting him cry-it-out. In fact, most French mothers don’t condone the latter method.

As a French paediatrician Michel Cohen, whom the author met in New York, put it: “My first intervention is to say, when your baby is born, just don’t jump on your kid at night,” Cohen says. “Give your baby a chance to self-soothe, don’t automatically respond, even from birth.”

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I finally start to realise, that it might be the reason I was long searching for why my daughter doesn’t do her nights. When she was born, people told me about “the pause”, but I totally disregarded this advice. I responded to every single noise because I thought she was up and ready to play.

There are a couple of reasons why babies wake up at night. One of them is that babies make a lot of noise in their sleep and we can misunderstand these sounds as a demand for food. Another reason is that babies wake up between sleep cycles. And it’s normal if they cry a little bit. If we wait a couple of minutes before responding, the baby will learn how to connect these sleep cycles by himself.

In order to clarify that truth, I went a little further and I joined a Facebook group of French “mamans”. I felt an urge to know if all this information was true. Given that, I explained myself in English, I had only few responders who could understand me and give me a clear answer.

And their answer was: YES! French babies indeed start to sleep through the night early on. Voila!

As one woman described it, – she would wait 2-3 minutes before responding to baby’s cry and then she would go in and comfort him. Her first son started sleeping through the night at 6 weeks old and second at 2-3 months old. 

Isn’t that cool?

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Now, what about breastfeeding at night? Many parents know that if you don’t feed a baby at night, your milk will dry out.

But as a person who dropped night feeds when my daughter was 21 months old and then continued nursing only few times a day for 3 more months, I have some doubts in this theory. In a former Soviet Union, doctors advised against breastfeeding during the night. Therefore, my mom didn’t give me milk at night but successfully kept nursing during the day.

If many French parents don’t feed their babies at night, would it mean they are starving their children and all kids are underweight? I highly doubt that. Instead, the mothers try to tank up their babies as much as possible during the day so that a baby wasn’t hungry at night. Makes sense? It does to me.

What also intrigued me in this educational overview of French parenting is that all kids  follow the same feeding schedule as adults. They have breakfast, lunch, dinner and afternoon snack. And French see it as a common sense. They start to incorporate a 4 meal day rule at a very young age, as early as 4 months old, gradually easing babies into a schedule.

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What surprises me even more is that French children are capable to wait long stretches between feeds without whining or crying.

Feels like these French have perfect babies, who sleep and eat well. But how did they achieve such an unquestioning obedience? It turns out, the secret lies in that same old “pause”.

French parents apply “the pause” rule not only for sleep issues, but for everyday matters as well. If a child wants something that a parent cannot give him right away, the parent will simple say “wait”. And some crying is considered normal, because a child needs to understand and respect that some things cannot be done his way.

French parents expect from younger kids the same discipline as from the older ones and give them a lot of opportunities to learn how to cope with the frustration of not getting what they want.

It’s also important for French that kids could play by themselves. And here I think to myself: Yay, finally, there’s at least something that I can see a resemblance with those parents. I never have a problem to make a phone call or do some other home chores without being interrupted. My daughter can easily play by herself. She learnt that mama can be busy with other chores and cannot play with her all the time.

After reading these two chapters, the whole French parenting thing started to make sense to me. Why didn’t I use these simple yet effective “pause,” and “wait” techniques when my daughter was much younger? I’m confident that the earlier you start these life teaching lessons, the easier it will become later on when your child grows and develops his personality. In my observation in American culture as well as in some other cultures, parents don’t expect much from small babies. French parents instead, take the infancy very seriously and consider it as an important stage to teach important life lessons.

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Iryna is a lifestyle blogger at www.wearemoms.org and writes about all things that are dear to her heart. She has a major interest in pregnancy/childbirth and parenting topics. Iryna loves good food and gladly shares most loved by her family recipes on the blog.

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DIY Coffee Bar Reveal

One thing that I’ve always wanted to do in our little home was to have a coffee/tea bar and I am so happy to finally reveal what I’ve been slowly putting together for the past month or so. With the onslaught of baby stuff coming into our apartment and needing to get creative on how to manage in our one bedroom, I knew I only had a small space that could be used for my bar. It is literally a square space right off from our kitchen – so not a lot to work with. Aside from a corner cabinet I’m not quite sure what other people in our complex use that odd space for, but I was determined to make it useful and cute all at the same time.

Looking to add a little fun to your kitchen? This easy DIY coffee bar is the best way to save on space, money, and time in the mornings! Find out how you can create a coffee bar on a budget!

It took me about a month or so to acquire all of the big pieces such as the super popular Hobby Lobby wall shelf and finally decide on a cabinet. I had originally ordered a sidebar from Wayfair, but was disappointed in myself that I miscalculated the wall length so I had to return it. Later, while shopping at Target one day, I came across the Threshold Kitchen Pantry and found it was the perfect length to fit my small corner. I had debated on whether or not I wanted a cabinet in a dark or light finish, but opted for the white considering our kitchen cabinets are white. I took a little risk, but am happy with how well it worked out.

Here’s how I created my coffee bar on a budget!

Create this easy DIY coffee bar using items from Target and Hobby Lobby. Find the coffee accessories such as flavorings and sauces at World Market!

Create this easy DIY coffee bar using items from Target and Hobby Lobby. Find the coffee accessories such as flavorings and sauces at World Market!

White Kitchen Pantry: Target | Dachshund Mugs: TJ Maxx

Create this easy DIY coffee bar using items from Target and Hobby Lobby. Find the coffee accessories such as flavorings and sauces at World Market!

Initial Letter: Hobby Lobby | Green Plant: Ikea | Burlap Placemat: Crate & Barrel 

Create this easy DIY coffee bar using items from Target and Hobby Lobby. Find the coffee accessories such as flavorings and sauces at World Market!

Wall Shelf w/ Cup Hooks: Hobby Lobby

Create this easy DIY coffee bar using items from Target and Hobby Lobby. Find the coffee accessories such as flavorings and sauces at World Market!

Create this easy DIY coffee bar using items from Target and Hobby Lobby. Find the coffee accessories such as flavorings and sauces at World Market!

Decorative Plant & Two-Teir Stand: Hobby Lobby

Create this easy DIY coffee bar using items from Target and Hobby Lobby. Find the coffee accessories such as flavorings and sauces at World Market!

Having the coffee bar not only satisfies my own desires, but it also has freed up a lot of space in our kitchen cabinets. The side cabinet I chose from Target is the perfect size for that little space in the corner and it offers more storage for our cookware/bakeware that we don’t use on a daily basis.

Create this easy DIY coffee bar using items from Target and Hobby Lobby. Find the coffee accessories such as flavorings and sauces at World Market!

Vanilla Syrup & Caramel Sauce: World Market

If you don’t already know, my favorite iced coffee drink from Starbucks is their iced caramel macchiato. After using their order ahead option on the Starbucks app, I realized just how easy it was to make this drink myself since they have the recipe right there. It just requires vanilla syrup, milk, ice, espresso (or decaf coffee for me) and caramel drizzle. So easy! Check out this recipe I found and use regularly from Pinterest for a copycat iced caramel macchiato!

Now that I have a place to store all of my coffee needs, I set off to find the vanilla syrup and I remembered that World Market had a pretty good selection of goodies for making coffee at home. I was in luck as they had exactly what I needed (and the pump!) and a few other flavors I’ll have to try in the future. I can’t tell you how much money I’ve been saving, as well as time in the mornings, by making this drink at home.

Next on my to-do list is to find the perfect prints to bring it all together. Here are a few of my favorites:

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Meet Mattie: A Guest Post!

I am so excited to have my very first guest post here on Primarily Inspired and introduce you to a sponsor and blogger who is new on the scene, but is quickly rising! I love reading her blog for DIY inspirations or just to see what she’s up to or inspired by. Here’s Mattie from Mattie’s Makings!


Hi there, guys! Kelly has gracefully allowed me to take over her blog for a day! I must admit – this is my first time guest posting – so be prepared to be wowed! {is wowed a word? I’m not sure, but were going with it!}I’m going to share with you one of my biggest passions today! {You’re probably thinking it’s something super deep & emotional} It’s not!

I LOVE TV SHOWS. Seriously, it’s probably unhealthy how much. I know, I should be outside hiking somewhere. But the truth is, I love curling up on my couch and catching up on my shows. With winter premiers quickly starting {some have already started!} I figured it would be the perfect time to let you know what I’ll be watching! Most of the shows – I already love – but I’m excited to start some new ones as well!!

I LOVE TV SHOWS. Seriously, it's probably unhealthy how much. I know, I should be outside hiking somewhere. But the truth is, I love curling up on my couch and catching up on my shows. With winter premiers quickly starting {some have already started!} I figured it would be the perfect time to let you know what I'll be watching! Most of the shows - I already love - but I'm excited to start some new ones as well!!

You’ll notice some popular favorites are NOT on this list. How To Get Away With Murder, Scandal, Pretty Little Liars, Modern Family…This is due to the fact that I don’t like these shows. There. I said it! I just can’t get into them! How do you feel about these shows?!

I LOVE TV SHOWS. Seriously, it's probably unhealthy how much. I know, I should be outside hiking somewhere. But the truth is, I love curling up on my couch and catching up on my shows. With winter premiers quickly starting {some have already started!} I figured it would be the perfect time to let you know what I'll be watching! Most of the shows - I already love - but I'm excited to start some new ones as well!!

Shows I already love // Arrow, The Flash, The Vampire Diaries & The 100.

Shows I’m excited to watch // Legends of Tomorrow & The Originals

Legends of Tomorrow: This show focuses on the assembling of a team comprised of both heroes + villains in order to save the world from an apocalypse. Since I love most super hero shows – I’m excited to see what this one is like!

The Originals: This is the spin-off to Vampire Diaries – a show that I need to get back into. I’ve been told that you don’t have to have watched Vampire Diaries to enjoy this show. This show focuses on the original vampires {oh, really?} and their day to day trials and tribulations!

I LOVE TV SHOWS. Seriously, it's probably unhealthy how much. I know, I should be outside hiking somewhere. But the truth is, I love curling up on my couch and catching up on my shows. With winter premiers quickly starting {some have already started!} I figured it would be the perfect time to let you know what I'll be watching! Most of the shows - I already love - but I'm excited to start some new ones as well!!

Shows I already love // Chicago Fire, & Law + Order SVU

Shows I’m excited to watch // Chicago P.D, Blindspot, & The Blacklist

Chicago P.D: Since I love Chicago Fire & have seen some of the crossover episodes, I really want to watch this show. Plus, I love Sophia Bush. This show is similar to Chicago Fire – in that it’s a drama but about the police rather than fire. Go figure. But if you’re into dramas, it’s worth giving this show a shot! Right?!

Blindspot: A woman is found naked in Times Square with no memory. Once the FBI gets involved, they discover the tattoos that are all over her body lead to different crimes that need to be solved. These crimes lead closer to the identity of the woman. This show looks so intense. The main actress is absolutely beautiful + it’s a drama/crime show – whats not to love?!

The Blacklist: Fugitive, Raymond Reddington, is on the FBI’s most wanted list. He turns himself in and promises to trade information on fellow criminals as long as he can work directly with new FBI agent, Elizabeth Keen. The relationship between Keen and Reddington  is somewhat of a mystery – which is what makes the show so enticing! The relationship between Keen and her husband is also pretty intense!

I LOVE TV SHOWS. Seriously, it's probably unhealthy how much. I know, I should be outside hiking somewhere. But the truth is, I love curling up on my couch and catching up on my shows. With winter premiers quickly starting {some have already started!} I figured it would be the perfect time to let you know what I'll be watching! Most of the shows - I already love - but I'm excited to start some new ones as well!!

Shows I already love // The Fosters, Switched at Birth, Baby Daddy, & Monica the Medium

Shows I’m excited to watch// Shadowhunters

Shadow hunters: I AM SO EXCITED FOR THIS SHOW. It just started – yesterday! This series is based off of the Mortal Instruments series. There was a movie – but I didn’t like it as much as I liked the book. I’m hoping the series will do a better job. From Wikipedia: “Clary Fray learns that she is a Shadowhunter, a human-angel  that hunts demons. After her mother is abducted by a demon, Clary joins a band of Shadowhunters to save her mother and discovers powers she never knew she had.” I’ll report back on this show once I watch the episode!

I LOVE TV SHOWS. Seriously, it's probably unhealthy how much. I know, I should be outside hiking somewhere. But the truth is, I love curling up on my couch and catching up on my shows. With winter premiers quickly starting {some have already started!} I figured it would be the perfect time to let you know what I'll be watching! Most of the shows - I already love - but I'm excited to start some new ones as well!!

Shows I already love // Blue Bloods, The Big Bang Theory, & Criminal Minds

Shows I’m excited to watch // Supergirl

Supergirl: I’m a big fan of superhero shows – especially ones with female leads! I haven’t watched it yet, but I’m hoping it won’t let me down. The show is about, you guessed it, the comic book hero supergirl, who is superman’s cousin! How cool does that sound?!

I LOVE TV SHOWS. Seriously, it's probably unhealthy how much. I know, I should be outside hiking somewhere. But the truth is, I love curling up on my couch and catching up on my shows. With winter premiers quickly starting {some have already started!} I figured it would be the perfect time to let you know what I'll be watching! Most of the shows - I already love - but I'm excited to start some new ones as well!!

Shows I Already love // Daredevil, Gilmore Girls, Friends, & Charmed

Shows I’m excited to watch  // Making a Murderer, Jessica Jones, Fuller House, Grace & Frankie

Making a Murderer: There is so much hype about this show. I haven’t worked up the courage to watch it yet. I’ve watched about 4 minutes of the first episode before I decided I shouldn’t watch it at night! Hehe. But in all seriousness, I do want to watch it. It’s basically about a man who was wrongly imprisoned for a crime & thanks to DNA technology was exonerated after 18 years in prison. Later, he becomes the prime suspect in another crime.

Jessica JonesOkay – I’ve seen a few episodes of this show here and there – but it seems really intense + dark. I want to give it a shot though. I love the actress who plays the lead roll. This show is about a girl {with super powers obviously} who becomes a private investigator. From what I understand, she’s trying to get back at this guy that has the ability to take control of people’s minds!

Fuller House: This show goes along with the 90s television show – Full House. They brought back a majority of the original characters and I’m excited to see which direction they take this show. I know the original Full House was known for promoting family values and being very family friendly. I hope the new show sticks to this as well!

Grace + Frankie: My fellow blogger friend Annie {Miscellaneous} recommended I give this show a shot. She said it was hilarious – and I’m excited to start watching it! From IMDB: “Finding out that their husbands are not just work partners, but have also been romantically involved for the last 20 years, two women with an already strained relationship try to cope with the circumstances together.”

I LOVE TV SHOWS. Seriously, it's probably unhealthy how much. I know, I should be outside hiking somewhere. But the truth is, I love curling up on my couch and catching up on my shows. With winter premiers quickly starting {some have already started!} I figured it would be the perfect time to let you know what I'll be watching! Most of the shows - I already love - but I'm excited to start some new ones as well!!

Shows I Already love // Shark Tank & NashvilleI must put a #shamelessplug in for Nashville. I’M A HUGE FAN. MY FAVORITE SHOW. When I went to Nashville this past year I stalked all the places that were seen on the show and bought about every T-shirt that had anything to do with the show! I’m thinking about doing a post on it!

Shows to get back into // Once Upon A Time, Castle, Grey’s Anatomy

Once Upon A Time: I watched the first season of this show and loved it. Then the second season came and it was just too much for me. I’ve heard from several friends that it gets better- so I’m going to give it another shot! This show is all about fairytales!! It has an awesome concept about how the fairytales intertwine with one another and have overlapping stories.

Castle: Writer, Richard Castle, follows along NYPD homicide detective, Kate Beckett, in order to gain insight on the life of an NYPD detective for his next novel series. The show follows these two and their journey of solving murders. I was super into this show & then just stopped watching when I couldn’t keep up with all of my shows in college. I’m going to start this back up because I love how their relationship grows over time.

Grey’s Anatomy: Okay, let’s just get this out in the open. I’m totally team Meredith – when it comes to anything. I couldn’t handle when Shonda Rhimes, the writer of the show, made Cristina and Meredith go through a rough patch, so I just stopped watching. Now that some time has passed – I can get back into it. I told you I’m really emotionally involved in my shows 🙂 The show surrounds five interns in the very first season and their journey on being surgical interns. Now, in its 12th season – these guys are no longer interns and have gone through pretty much anything you can imagine. It’s a really good drama show that never gets boring to watch!

I LOVE TV SHOWS. Seriously, it's probably unhealthy how much. I know, I should be outside hiking somewhere. But the truth is, I love curling up on my couch and catching up on my shows. With winter premiers quickly starting {some have already started!} I figured it would be the perfect time to let you know what I'll be watching! Most of the shows - I already love - but I'm excited to start some new ones as well!!

Shows I Already love // Project Runway Jr., Keeping Up With the Kardashians, The Man in the High Castle, Flip or Flop, & Bones

The Man in the High Castle: Can I just say that this Amazon Original Series is AMAZING! It is about what life would be like had the United States lost World War II. Definitely worthy of checking out!

Shows I’m excited to watch // The Last Ship, Rizzoli & Isles & Suits

The Last Ship: This thriller looks super intense. McSteamy, I mean Eric Dane, plays a Naval Commander Tom Chandler who is in charge of a ship that is on a mission out at sea. They hear word from home that the world has been struck by a pandemic that has wiped out a large portion of civilization. On their ship they head out with a scientist who searches for a cure to protect those that have survived.

Rizzoli & Isles: Another crime show that follows Boston detective, Jane Rizzoli, and medical examiner, Maura Isles. This show is super entertaining to watch because of the banter between the two women. I haven’t been keeping up with this show, so I need to get back into it!

Suits: Coming from an aspiring lawyer, I love this show. I’m really behind though. While I don’t want to be involved in law that is that cut throat it is fun to hear the two main lawyers talk in legal jargon. Mike Ross, illegally sits to take the BAR examination – and passes. He ends up getting a job at a very prestigious law firm and hides the fact that you know, he actually doesn’t have a law degree.

Thanks for reading! – What shows are you going to be watching this winter?!

I LOVE TV SHOWS. Seriously, it's probably unhealthy how much. I know, I should be outside hiking somewhere. But the truth is, I love curling up on my couch and catching up on my shows. With winter premiers quickly starting {some have already started!} I figured it would be the perfect time to let you know what I'll be watching! Most of the shows - I already love - but I'm excited to start some new ones as well!!

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Finding Gratitude In Times of Disagreement

In marriage you will find yourself at odds with your other half. It usually is sparked by something so minuscule that you can only laugh about the situation later or sometimes it snowballs from one little comment into a full blown argument about something that matters. Irregardless of if you’re a newlywed or have been married for 25 years, arguments will (and should) happen, but it’s in how you disagree that makes the world of difference in your relationship. Our marriage is no different and here’s how I found my gratitude even those times of disagreements.

In marriage you will find yourself at odds with your other half. It usually is sparked by something so minuscule that you can only laugh about the situation later or sometimes it snowballs from one little comment into a full blown argument about something that matters. Irregardless of if you’re a newlywed or have been married for 25 years, arguments will (and should) happen, but it’s in how you disagree that makes the world of difference in your relationship. Our marriage is no different and here’s how I found my gratitude even those times of disagreements.

Everyone says that once you bring children into the marriage you’ll find yourself arguing about the children or finances the most. Our little guy hasn’t even arrived yet and here my husband and I sit having had our first official spat over our preparedness of said baby. The disagreement happened first thing in the morning over breakfast on Sunday. We had just finished eating and that’s when my husband asked about a breast pump. He wanted to know, simply enough, if we needed one and how much they were. I then proceeded to tell him that yes, eventually we will need one, but it’s something we can wait on because I wanted to check with our insurance to see if it’s covered or if the hospital may be able to provide one for us. Otherwise we could just buy one ourselves. This lead to a conversation about what other ‘essential’ or ‘necessity’ items we still needed and I again proceeded to rattle off a few items we still needed to purchase from our registry for when baby comes home.

After a few moments I began to realize the look on my husband’s face changed from an into the conversation expression to overwhelmed. I had seen this quick change once before and it was when we were in Texas and were preparing our checked baggage full of baby clothes and books (from our baby shower). My husband said he needed a minute and I could tell this process was beginning to take a toll on him. I was a bit surprised at first, considering up until now he’s been fabulous throughout the whole pregnancy. He’s been so supportive and excited and so to see him react this way started to make me feel a bit unsure about whether or not he’s actually prepared mentally for our baby’s arrival.

My immediate thought was of frustration. I was frustrated that he was getting overwhelmed every single time we discussed what the baby needed. I was upset at the thought that somehow the baby and I were causing him to feel burdened. My husband is a minimalist and so I was wondering if all the baby stuff, and stuff we still neededwas beginning to wear on him. I had so many questions and presumptions that I found myself becoming more anxious and upset. So, I retreated to our bedroom and was about to distract myself with some Netflix when he walks in.

He asks me if everything is alright and that’s when I immediately begin to burst into tears. I allowed my heart, and what was weighing on my mind, to just spill out in front of him. I spoke up about my frustrations with him; that I didn’t understand where his feelings of being overwhelmed were stemming from and ultimately that I didn’t want this to be a sign that he’s not ready for parenthood the way I thought we both were. The conversation went back and forth for a while, us listening and responding to each other (and luckily me being the only over-emotional one), until we both made a breakthrough in our disagreement.

This is where my grateful heart lies today.

After about an hour of going back and forth, slowly stripping away the surface level frustrations, we were able to both confront the real issue. For us, it wasn’t anything to do with the baby or the stuff we needed. It wasn’t about whether or not we’re prepared (because we are!) or feel ready to be parents (because we are!). It came down to us both realizing that our time to be selfish (i.e. being able to do whatever we want, whenever we want) is slowly dwindling down. Soon our priorities will change and so will our routines and even marriage – and that is something to feel overwhelmed by.

At the end of the day, even as emotionally exhausting as that disagreement was, I am so grateful that I have a partner and marriage that has such a strong foundation that we are able to have these disagreements and grow stronger as partners through it. Arguments happen, people disagree, and fighting for what you love or believe in is well worth it in the end. I’m grateful for my husband and his patience with me, I’m grateful that he’s introspective enough to acknowledge his own fears and to talk about them, and I’m grateful for the communication we have with one another.

I know we’re both ready and excited for our little guy, but I also know these disagreements will be one of many in our future. However, I’m grateful that no matter where the disagreement may stem from, we have the ability to talk it out in a meaningful way and strengthen our marriage through it.

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