Getting Over the Blogging Blues

Today I was inspired to weigh in on a topic that has been on my mind for a while but I’ve never quite had the right words to say or describe my thoughts. I’ve experienced what I’ll call the ‘blogging blues.’ It’s a feeling that is made up of discouragement due to comparison. I am guilty that I have a tendency to compare my little blog here to more established blogs on the web. Some actual thoughts I’ve had…

They have more followers or likes. How can I get those? Wow, they get about 3M views a MONTH?! Bloglovin’ suggestions make me feel small compared to all of these other lifestyle blogs out there. Why doesn’t anyone link up with my hosted linkups?

But then I snapped out of that frame of thinking and it made me really start to question my foundation: why do I blog and how can I get over these blogging blues? I found my answer by going back to 2011.

In the beginning…

I began blogging when I was inspired to create a teacher blog that focused on my days in and out of the classroom and sharing experiences and resources with other teachers. I loved the community in which I found myself and I was able to grow friendships from people I never would have met otherwise. My first blog (besides the one I had to make for a college class, which we’re not going to even consider a real thing for the sake of this post) was called ‘Keeping Up in Kindergarten’ in 2011. (Can you tell my “creative” name was based on a Kardashian reality show at the time? Yeah that happened). I didn’t know a thing about blogging but I slowly began to build my own little corner on the web just for my classroom. It wasn’t anything special but it was something that was mine.

Flash forward to the next school year. I moved to second grade and I faced a conundrum. Do I keep the blog or change it? I wasn’t feeling my kinder blog that much anymore; it never really picked up off the ground and I found I didn’t have the passion for it like I originally did. I would post probably once or twice a month and in combination with the stress that comes in that first year of teaching, my blog ended up just gathering dust. So, I decided to scrap it and begin anew and thus I created Sliding Into Second Grade (gotta love those catchy teacher-blog names!).

It was within my second year teaching that I got the fire underneath me again to begin blogging. I told myself that I am going to commit to this and put forth the effort to post and just have fun with it. After all I am not aiming to be the number one teacher blogger or be nationally recognized…it was about me having my space to share my classroom and connect with other teachers.

It was that moment: when I decided that I would do something for me and create something for me that could help other teachers with my posts or resources, that I found satisfaction and joy from blogging. My teacher blog now has over 3,000+ views a month, over 1,600+ followers on Facebook, and I’ve managed to make a good paycheck by selling my classroom resources on Teachers Pay Teachers…and it continues to grow to this day. I am so grateful that my little corner of the web, my blog, has managed to reach those readers and is able to be a resource to teachers all over. That’s why I do it. Again, those numbers may not be anything in comparison to that of others but I refuse to compare my accomplishments to others. I am proud of what I’ve built and that’s the point.

Now, this brings me to my other little pride and joy: Primarily Inspired. I began this lifestyle blog after a lot of thought and consideration.

Would I be able to manage two blogs at the same time? What about when I begin teaching full-time again? Will I be able to make that commitment? 

And then it dawned on me…I blog because I love writing and sharing the things that inspire me and PI has been a place where I can do that. I’m inspired by fashion, beauty, books, my faith, cooking, and just the inner workings of overall life. I blog because it is personal to me and I choose to share it in hopes that others can relate and therefore foster community or at the very least start a discussion.

If you’ve made it this far and haven’t clicked away from this long post yet (I know!), I promise I’ve finally brought us to my main point and inspiration for this post. Recently I have been exposed to the unflattering side to blogging. It’s the side where people become more interested in gaining followers and likes, routinely checking their blog stats and questioning how to build more traffic, and contemplate paying for advertising or not. This is the ugly side to this beautiful platform of blogging.

If you’re one of these people I just say to you (and something I’ve had to remind myself of constantly) is that take a moment to reflect on why you began blogging in the first place.

Were you inspired by something? Are you an avid writer and love sharing stories or your opinions? Do you want to begin a small online business? 

No matter what your answer is, it should be because you enjoy it and are doing it for YOU. I promise those numbers you see on other blogs grow naturally over time and eventually you’ll get there too. Don’t be discouraged or caught up in getting your blog exposed to drive more traffic. That’s not what this is about. Be authentic to who you are and those readers will come and care more about what you have to say.

I know that right there was quite a bit and frankly I’m grateful if you’ve made it to this point. Thank you for listening to me ramble but I care enough about this topic that I’d thought to share my opinion.

Have you experienced these blogging blues? What helps you snap yourself out of them?

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The Peony Project: RENEW

I’m not typically one to discuss my faith, especially on my blog. It’s not about being ashamed or afraid to talk about it, rather it’s because it’s so personal to me and sometimes it comes down to not having anyone to really discuss it with. Don’t get me wrong, I love having in-depth conversations with my husband but sometimes a girl just needs the fellowship of other women sometimes. Another aspect of blogging that I love so much is that I’ve recently discovered that there are entire faith-based communities out there and I am so happy to have found Heavens to Betsy and became a member of  The Peony Project.

January is a time to reflect on the previous year and evaluate myself both inside and out. Really dig deep and see what needs improvement and renewal. Thus January’s Peony Project linkup prompt: RENEWAL. Now, I’m not going to create a list and attempt to describe and share all the ways in which I would like to improve in 2015. Rather, it is this quote from scripture that will help keep me steady and on track throughout all of my goals this year.


So, what does this mean to me? I find that it is really easy to slip into allowing our lives to control who we are and the values we hold. I am no different and it is because I know this I find it extremely important to rely on God to give me the strength to overcome these worldly obstacles. I can give in to my own temptations, be judgmental, or just want to do what is convenient for me at times. However, this way of living does nothing for me and I find myself becoming more distant from God. I’ve been there before and I hope to never know that feeling again.

This year, in 2015, my goal is to rely on God to renew my heart and to renew His spirit in me. I know that through Him I can overcome anything this world may throw at me and I don’t know about you, but it’s not too bad to have Him on your side. I know that this year will be filled with amazing highs and lows and I pray that I give Him praise for those moments of highs and be able to keep an open heart during those lows.

How do you plan to RENEW in the new year? Be sure to join and linkup with The Peony Project!

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Styling with Stitch Fix #4

What a rainy and cold day today turned out to be! I swear the moment I get used to this California weather it switches up on me. It goes from sunny and 75 degrees back to cold and rainy. However, it doesn’t get in the way of my excitement for my latest Stitch Fix! Major props to my husband who managed to get some good photos even though we were stuck inside!

One of my favorite aspects of Stitch Fix is that I always anticipate what I’ll receive next. For this fix I left a note to my stylist mentioning that I would love to receive more items that could go with my newly purchased ankle boots and lighter pieces that I could easily layer (like this weather we’re having is any indication). Once I opened my box I was very happy with what I got! Let’s take a look at my January fix.

One of my favorite aspects of Stitch Fix is that I always anticipate what I’ll receive next. For this fix I left a note to my stylist mentioning that I would love to receive more items that could go with my newly purchased ankle boots and lighter pieces that I could easily layer (like this weather we’re having is any indication). Once I opened my box I was very happy with what I got! Let’s take a look at my January fix.

For this outfit I paired two of my fixes into one look: my Pixley chevron dress and the Kut From The Kloth denim jacket. I was so happy that my stylist was able to finally find me a great denim jacket that fit so nicely and had a little bit of stretch. I had been asking for a denim jacket since my first fix and nothing I had received fit well on me...until now.

Pixley Chevron Knit Fit & Flare Dress – RETURN
Kut From The Kloth Denim Jacket – KEEP

For this outfit I paired two of my fixes into one look: my Pixley chevron dress and the Kut From The Kloth denim jacket. I was so happy that my stylist was able to finally find me a great denim jacket that fit so nicely and had a little bit of stretch. I had been asking for a denim jacket since my first fix and nothing I had received fit well on me…until now.

The chevron print of the dress is a bit different than what I would have chosen for myself, but I consider it very “Californian” if that’s even a word to describe something. The fit and flare style of the dress is very flattering, and a fit I routinely ask for, and the material is really comfortable. I also love that the neckline is modest, especially with my larger bust, so I feel comfortable to wear it to work. Unfortunately I didn’t love it enough to keep it, so I’ll be returning it.

The accessories I chose to finish up my first look is with a simple long necklace from Banana Republic and skinny belt to help give shape to my curves. I also went with my nude wedges from J.Crew.

The chevron print of the dress is a bit different than what I would have chosen for myself, but I consider it very “Californian” if that’s even a word to describe something. The fit and flare style of the dress is very flattering, and a fit I routinely ask for, and the material is really comfortable. I also love that the neckline is modest, especially with my larger bust, so I feel comfortable to wear it to work. Unfortunately I didn’t love it enough to keep it, so I’ll be returning it. The accessories I chose to finish up my first look is with a simple long necklace from Banana Republic and skinny belt to help give shape to my curves. I also went with my nude wedges from J.Crew.

 Shoes: J.Crew | Necklace: Banana Republic

A denim jacket is a prime staple that everyone should have in their closets at their disposal. Darker denim can be paired with everything and I love how it looks with white. For my second look I paired my jacket with a white eyelet dress and for a splash of color I wore a red statement necklace from a little shop in Alexandria, VA called The Lucky Knot. Denim jackets can be played up or down and I am always trying to find pieces that can be worn multiple different ways.

Eyelet Dress: J.Crew | Necklace: Local Shop

A denim jacket is a prime staple that everyone should have in their closets at their disposal. Darker denim can be paired with everything and I love how it looks with white. For my second look I paired my jacket with a white eyelet dress and for a splash of color I wore a red statement necklace from a little shop in Alexandria, VA called The Lucky Knot. Denim jackets can be played up or down and I am always trying to find pieces that can be worn multiple different ways.

I styled the look according to the notecard that accompanied my fixes: light denim or boyfriend jeans with a basic white tee and paired with flats or sneakers. Overall it was a very comfortable look, perfect for around the house or weekends, but in the end I didn’t fall in love with this one and I am always on the lookout for pieces I can wear at work as well as the home.

Tee: Banana Republic | Jeans: J.Crew | Sneakers: Converse

Tart Vida Striped Detail Zip Up Cardigan: RETURN

This next piece I was a little thrown off by as I wasn’t sure what my stylist was going for originally. I did mention in my note that I loved the casual cardigans from my previous fixes but perhaps ‘casual’ was taken a bit too literally. I found that this jacket would be a great activewear item, but unfortunately it wasn’t quite what I was looking for in a cardigan.

I styled the look according to the notecard that accompanied my fixes: light denim or boyfriend jeans with a basic white tee and paired with flats or sneakers. Overall it was a very comfortable look, perfect for around the house or weekends, but in the end I didn’t fall in love with this one and I am always on the lookout for pieces I can wear at work as well as the home.

Lastly, the final items in my fix this month was this beautiful blue color block lace trim blouse and a pair of Level 99 skinny jeans. The blue paired with the black lace really makes this top versatile for both work and a night out.

Mystree Abigail Colorblock Lace Trip Top: RETURN
Level 99 Skinny Jeans (not pictured): RETURN

Lastly, the final items in my fix this month was this beautiful blue color block lace trim blouse and a pair of Level 99 skinny jeans. The blue paired with the black lace really makes this top versatile for both work and a night out. The cut of the blouse was cute, but the size was a little snug for me. Also, the skinny jeans weren’t too flattering either (so, sorry for no pictures). When they barely come up over your knees there’s no need for photographic evidence.

All in all I returned everything except for my denim jacket. This is a case where I didn’t love everything, but the one thing I did love was something I needed, it fit perfectly, and can be worn a multitude of ways (which in a way pays for itself). Whenever I get fixes like these, I think about what I could do differently for my stylist who has the job of figuring out what my needs are based on my feedback, notes, and Pinterest board. That can’t be easy! Next time I will be more specific about what I’d like to see next and keep up with the detailed notes to my stylist with the photos I pin. I know I’m just one fix away from the perfect box!

curious about getting your own fixes?

Stitch Fix has been an amazing service where I am able to try on five different handpicked pieces by a professional stylist from the privacy and convenience of my very own home. I have been working with the same stylist, Whitney, since the beginning and I feel as though I’ve really been able to develop a rapport with her over time. In your fixes you’ll receive your five pieces, a return envelope, a note from your stylist, and a styling card for inspiration on how to put your pieces together when trying them on. Once you’ve decided what you’re keeping or returning, simply place the items you’re sending back in the pre-paid shipping envelope and drop it off at your local post office. That’s it!

Stitch Fix rewards you for your purchases!

Checking out is a breeze online where you can leave feedback to your stylist about what worked and what didn’t. That way when you schedule your next fix they have a better idea on how to get it right the next time. If you love everything, Stitch Fix rewards you with a Buy Five discount of 25% off your entire order! And don’t forget that your $20 styling fee goes as a credit towards any purchases you make regardless of if you buy everything or not!

reward others

Once you schedule your first fix, you will be given a referral link where you can earn a $25 credit towards your future fixes just by sharing your experience with others and referring them to try this service. I only share what I love on this blog and I am always excited to share my fix experiences, good or bad, with my readers and I love that I can earn credits towards future fixes by doing just that.

This post contains affiliate links. All opinions expressed are 100% my own.

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